September 30, 2015

Collegiate Perspective: Finding your Niche in Alpha Phi

People sometimes think that by joining a sorority, you are agreeing to conform your values, beliefs and talents to those that “fit in” with the greater group. I think as members, one thing we truly value is diversity. It can be easy to get  caught up in what everyone as a larger group is doing, and  we can forget how big of a contribution we, as individuals, bring to Alpha Phi. 

We simply don’t give ourselves enough credit. When you look at your friends, you see an impressive group of women: someone who is extremely involved in multiple organizations on campus, another who has a perfect 4.0, someone who has a great professional network and internship experience or another who holds a leadership position in your chapter and essentially keeps it functioning. It becomes easy to look at yourself and wonder, “Am I doing enough?”

If you have yet to discover your contribution, here is my advice to you:

  • Accept that it’s okay to not be perfect. You are not going to excel in every single thing that you do. You can’t do everything, and that’s okay. 
  • Put yourself out there. Don’t always wait for someone to approach you first. If someone needs assistance with an event, offer to help. You may develop a passion for something you never knew you were interested in.
  • Don’t be afraid to be disappointed. If you volunteer to do something and realize afterwards that it isn’t a good fit for you, don’t force yourself to enjoy doing it. Passion can’t and shouldn’t be forced. The experience serves as a learning opportunity and gives you better direction on what you should try next.
  • Recognize others’ strengths. Sometimes someone doesn’t even realize they obtain the talents that they do. If you highlight those strengths, build them up and encourage that individual to do something, you may just help her find her niche. Wouldn’t you want her to do the same for you?


The only way you can realize what you are good at is by diving in headfirst with hopes of developing a passion for at least one thing. Whether it’s philanthropy, academics or Panhellenic involvement, give it everything you have and your efforts will certainly benefit your chapter. 

Katelyn Pulio is a collegiate member at Missouri (Omicron). Learn more about Katelyn by clicking here.

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