December 30, 2015

Collegiate Perspective: The Balance Between Mental and Physical Wellness

For most of us, college is the first time we have the opportunity to live on our own and make a lot of important decisions in our lives. In between studying, extra-curricula’s, part-time jobs, internships and our social lives, it can all become overwhelming. Never forget to take a moment out of your busy life to take care of yourself. Well-being encompasses more than just eating right and working out. Here are some of the most vital things to keep in mind when you’re over-worked and stressed out in college.

1. Time Management
Time management is a skill that most people learn the hard way; cramming last minute for exams, running late to meetings, not being able to do the fun things you want to do because you forgot about an assignment. But planning out school work due-dates, meeting times, job shifts and social events in advance can help make you more organized, which leaves much less to worry about when you’re busy.

2. Make Sure You’re Getting Enough Sleep
Often times taking a full course load means pulling the occasional all-nighter. But the truth is, if you manage your assignments and keep in mind the dates of your exams, you won’t have to stay up all night in misery. “Pulling all-nighters” is NOT GOOD for our bodies! We weren’t meant to stay up for that long! You will have a better attitude and your body will function at its best, with at least 6-8 hours of sleep every night.

3. Eat Healthy Food, at Regular Hours
Whether you live on campus and eat at the dining hall, or live off-campus and make food for yourself, eating healthy is definitely do-able, even when you’re stressed out. In addition to eating the right things, remember to eat them at the right time. If you don’t eat all day while you’re in classes, you will become irritable and over-eat in the evenings. Packing lunches for long days and meal-prepping is a great way to eat right on the go. And while Starbucks Refreshers are the best, don’t forget to drink enough water throughout the day too!

The most important tip to being well when you’re busy is to take time for the things you love to do! Doing what makes you happy is the best way to de-stress and enjoy life. Some aspects of college can be challenging at times, but it wouldn’t be called “the best years of our lives” if we didn’t make time for our hobbies, interests and friends.

Caroline Whitlock is a collegiate member at George Mason (Eta Lambda). Learn more about Caroline by clicking here.

December 23, 2015

Collegiate Perspective: The Unofficial Commandments of Being a Little Sister

When I became a little sister, or sometimes called “little”, I had no idea what to expect. I didn’t know that someone who was just a stranger, could become one of the most influential and important people in my life. My big sister, or “big” has impacted my life in more ways than I can count and for that I am forever thankful. Through gaining the title of “little”, I felt it was my duty to do everything I could to be the best little I could be. I didn’t realize how much of an integral part of my life my big became until thinking about a day without her, was impossible. She is someone who is always there for me whenever and wherever I need it, and every day I strive to be that for her. I hope to be just as much her lifeline as she is mine. 

I believe there is an unofficially list of commandments that each and every little follows, even if they don’t know it. 
  • You will vow to put nothing less than 100% into every gift, T-shirt and canvas that you will inevitably craft. 
  • You shall always be ready to take cliché big and little pictures everywhere you go.
  • You must become her fashionista when she has an important date with the cutest guy from her class. She will abduct your wardrobe and you will let her.
  • You shall always have a full tank of gas for spontaneous adventures to places like Sonic and Target. Along with a full playlist for the ride there. The car ride is half the fun of it.
  • You must always stand up for her when things don’t go as planned. Be her advocate and her best friend when life gives her lemons. She shouldn’t make lemonade alone. 
  • You shall always be her number one fan. It is your job now, to motivate her to run faster and push harder, and to always be proud of her no matter the outcome.
  • You shall always be ready with chocolate and ice cream when the occasional disaster occurs. No words can calm her down, that is the job of processed sugar.
  • You shall cherish the days with her. The late nights and early mornings. The time goes by quickly, but the relationship you have built out of countless funny stories and great memories, will last forever. 
Rylee Portman is a collegiate member at Northern Colorado (Delta Gamma). Learn more about Rylee by clicking here.

December 15, 2015

Spring 2015 Collegiate Perspective Blogger Application

Are you....  
An avid writer?
Social media savvy?
Passionate about Alpha Phi? 

Then consider applying to be a guest writer for the Collegiate Perspective section of the Alpha Phi International blog.

Our blog features topics ranging from alumnae perspective articles to crafting to general women's awareness pieces. And we'd love to throw your viewpoint into the mix! Document a semester in the life: snap photos, tell about events happening within your chapter or write about topics concerning women. The possibilities are endless, and we want to hear your ideas!

In order to be eligible, you must:
Be a collegiate member
Be able to write blog posts up to two times a month
Be available to write through the end of this semester (Spring 2016)

Interested? Fill out the Alpha Phi Guest Blogger Application below. Please be thoughtful and thorough with your responses. You can view past collegiate perspective pieces by clicking here. We'll be in touch following the deadline regarding the status of your application.

Contact with any questions!

The application deadline is due by January 10th, 2016, by 11:59 PM CST.

December 9, 2015

Collegiate Perspective: Why Passion Has Become Our Generations Newest Fashion

College is a strange time for pretty much everyone; you are trying to create a plan for your future, while also doing the soul-searching required to find yourself. The dynamic of your life changes completely when you are left with no choice but to be independent. Lately, I’ve noticed a major difference within the people I’m constantly surrounded by. During this time in your life, what you value shifts entirely. The personal relationships that were once so surface level, mean nothing to you now. The relationships you create are much deeper, mature and meaningful. It becomes less about who has the cutest outfit, and more about who has the biggest heart.  

Who and what inspire you? What type of people do you want to surround yourself with? What kind of life do you want to live? 

It’s important to think of these questions at this age because life is simply too short to not surround yourself with those who motivate you to be the best version of yourself. As this whole process occurs, we begin to find ourselves and realize the kind of lives we want to live. We unintentionally and almost unrecognizably find answers to these questions. And there's usually a common theme within those answers: passion. 

Whether it's the passion for a helpful cause, an organization, your loved ones or even Alpha Phi, exposing what you care about most to others has become one of the greatest statements a woman in our generation can make. I like to refer to it as "wearing your passion on your sleeve". Some of the most respected and successful women of our time are the ones who are confident and driven enough to share what their passions are with the world. They are fearlessly devoted in the most composed way; and people love them for openly being themselves. This is one of the greatest characteristics a woman can obtain. We are at the turning point in our lives that we could be or do anything we want to. There is no place quite like college to give you endless opportunities, knowledge, and inspiration. 

Who do you want to be? What do you want to do? Where do you want to go? What’s stopping you? 

Whatever it is that lights that spark inside of you, becomes a part of who you are. It is what makes you unique. It should not be bottled or hidden; it should not be tamed or tailored. It should be shown and appreciated because the joy it brings to you, will influence others. The glow in your eyes when you speak of it is how people will remember you.  

So, how would you like to be remembered?

If you haven’t found this powerful connection and passion yet, that is perfectly acceptable. It is enough to simply be passionate about life.

Katelyn Pulio is a collegiate member at Missouri (Omicron). Learn more about Katelyn by clicking here.

December 4, 2015

Collegiate Perspective: A Day in the Life of an Alpha Phi

We can all relate to that moment when we first peeled open our bid cards. Only the noise of our too-fast heartbeat was flowing through our ears, and our smile couldn’t contain the joy we were feeling as we saw those beautiful letters on the other side of that envelope. At that moment in time, we all wanted to be the best Alpha Phi we could. We wanted to hold a leadership position and  have both a little and big sister in the chapter. We knew we finally found home. The day of initiation came and with the looks of hope on our faces as the opportunity to be a part of something bigger than ourselves, we couldn’t help but think, “How did I get so lucky?” The second that golden pin pierced our clothes we made a choice. We chose to hold ourselves to higher standards and to be the best version of ourselves each and every day. 

As we move along in the journey of college and all it entails, we can lose sight of why we are here and who we have chosen to be. Sometimes we overlook that we are all here for a reason, and because of this reason, we must carry on each day being the best Alpha Phi we can be. No matter the circumstance. We are not only representing our own image, but we are representing the face and grace of Alpha Phi.

When we wake up every morning to that way too early 7:00 a.m. alarm, drink a heaping cup of mediocre college-grade coffee and slip on our letters, we have taken the Alpha Phi oath once again. Every day that we get up in the morning as a devoted and humble member of Alpha Phi, we make a promise to not only ourselves, but to our past and future sisters. We make a promise that we will uphold and carry our traditions with honor and love. We make a promise to laugh until our stomachs hurt. We make a promise that we will be there for any sister who needs us. We make a promise to have the perfect playlist ready when necessary. We make a promise that we will strive to achieve the highest grades we can. We make a promise to be generous, and to not expect anything in return. We promise to fight courageously through the trials that college inevitably holds; and we promise to do it with dignity and hope for the future. We promise to allow the love of Alpha Phi to pour into our hearts at times of sorrow and times of joy. We make a promise to work tirelessly to become the best women we can be. 

I vividly remember a classmate asking me, “What is a typical day as an Alpha Phi?” I figured it was a simple answer but the second I opened my mouth, no words came out. I struggled to find the answer, searching in the archives of my brain for a description. How can you describe the relationships with people who have become like family? How can you show them the wild adventure you are on? How can you put into words the thing that has made you happier than you ever could have imagined? A true “Day in the Life” is hard to describe. It is impossible to predict a day in the life of an Alpha Phi because each day is different from the last. And will be different from the next. Each day is ultimately a brand new adventure with brand new memories and brand new stories. 

When I finally responded to her, I said, “It is absolutely amazing.” That was the word that came to mind. Amazing. Life as an Alpha Phi is nothing short of amazing. I truly don’t know how to describe a day in the life because there aren’t words to describe it. But I do know this; any day spent as an Alpha Phi, is better than any ordinary day. Any day spent with my best friends, staying up way too late and eating junk food at hours that I shouldn’t be eating junk food at, is a day well spent. A day in the life as an Alpha Phi is unpredictable, except for the fact that each and every day is full of one thing; pure happiness.

Rylee Portman is a collegiate member at Northern Colorado (Delta Gamma). Learn more about Rylee by clicking here.

December 2, 2015

Collegiate Perspective: Single Sentence Challenge

I want to reflect back on an assignment I did for my social media class last semester. 

In this class each student was required to set up their own blog and write weekly blog posts based off of topics our professor assigned to us (props to Dr. Carol Zuegner, she’s the best). 

There was one assignment in particular that really stood out to me, named “What’s my sentence?” or what I like to call, the absurdly difficult single sentence challenge. 

The assignment is based off of a video from the best selling author Daniel Pink. The video states, “a great man is a sentence”. Meaning that a single sentence should be able to convey the core being of an individual. In other words, a sentence that encompasses what you would want someone to remember you by. 

For some people, articulating their sentence is a piece of cake. But for many, a lot of time is taken considering what to include about yourself in the sentence. Where do you start? Your values, character, what you want to be when you grow up, what you hope to achieve, how you help others, etc. It truly does take some time to prioritize what you value as most important. 

Why is doing this challenge important? This challenge helped me start the process of identifying how I perceive myself, who I want to be, and how others see me. Being able to construct this sentence helped me to focus everything I do according to my values and what I want to achieve in life. It motivates me and guides my everyday actions. Plus, it’s cool to have a back pocket elevator speech for yourself!

After many attempts and changes, my sentence is: She motivates others to be the best version of themselves and makes others feel important.

I hope you try to construct your own sentence sometime. It will definitely help you in interviews and in life. Thank you everyone for reading my blog posts this semester! Happy Holidays! 

Darshana Panchal is a collegiate member at Creighton (Theta Delta) . Learn more about Darshana by clicking here.

November 25, 2015

Collegiate Perspective: The Importance of Service

All over the United States and Canada, Alpha Phis continue to raise money and awareness for our beloved philanthropic partner, Alpha Phi Foundation. We are so passionate about giving women educational and leadership opportunities, as well as encouraging heart-healthy lifestyles. As collegiate women and sisters of Alpha Phi, we are fortunate to have the ability to further our educations and share such a strong sisterhood. 

The core values of our fraternity are sisterhood, scholarship, leadership, loyalty, character development, and my personal favorite: service. While it is important to raise money and awareness for Alpha Phi Foundation, it is also the duty of an Alpha Phi to give back to the community. Service is one small way to make a big difference. 

Before I joined Alpha Phi, I hardly participated in community service. But Greek life gave me a passion and a calling for serving others. Through Greek life, I have the opportunity to give back to the community that has supported me throughout my collegiate career. From participating in the 9/11 Day of Service, helping clean up a community garden with our alumnae or collecting canned goods for Food for Others during Greek Week, I have found true happiness in giving back to both my University and neighbors in Fairfax. Planning and having community service events within my chapter, and George Mason at large, has been the most rewarding experience in my college career. 

Service activities are also a great way to bond with sisters. Through participating in service with my chapter, our alumnae and the Mason community, I have gotten to know my sisters better and seen them act as leaders, committed to enacting positive change in the community and in each other.  

Thanksgiving is a time for reflecting on all the joy in our lives and giving thanks to all of those who make it joyful. While we are expressing our gratitude this season, it is important to remember that there are always those that are in need of more joy in our communities. So my challenge to you, my sisters, is to go out and make a difference in someone’s life this holiday season.

Caroline Whitlock is a collegiate member at George Mason (Eta Lambda). Learn more about Caroline by clicking here.

Alumnae Volunteer Perspective: Alpha Phi Isn't Just Four Years

I’ve often said that one of the best decisions I made in my life happened at the age of 19. At 19, I said yes to Alpha Phi. I think of where my life would be had I not experienced Alpha Phi as a collegiate member, I realize how many friendships and opportunities I would have missed.  But then I think of the thousands of Alpha Phis who didn’t have a collegiate experience, but instead, came to our sisterhood as alumna initiates, and that serves to remind me that some of the best years of my Alpha Phi experience have all happened long after my college days.

Nancy Morris Courtney Bosworth is an alumna initiate whose story resonates with me about what it means to be a lifelong member, regardless of when that lifetime begins.

Nancy attended college in 1956 at Sacramento State, where there was no Greek life on campus, just “locals” associated with the campus. When several friends started a “local,” Nancy joined but missed out on the full experience when she had to leave school due to family circumstances. During the next five years she worked, got married, had two children, was widowed and stayed involved with the local alumnae.

As Nancy tells it, “my Alpha Phi story began in 1967 after I remarried and moved to Minneapolis. Six months into my new life, I received a letter from Alpha Phi International asking if I would like to be an Alpha Phi because my ‘local’ at Sacramento State was being colonized by the Fraternity. I made the trip back to California and was initiated along with the newest members of Epsilon Gamma-Sacramento State.

Alpha Phi alumnae have always had a strong presence in the Minneapolis area. At the time I was initiated, the Minneapolis Alumnae Chapter was 916 strong! Can you imagine that large of an alumnae chapter? Eventually it was broken into more manageable area chapters around the city, and I helped charter a new chapter in the Minnetonka-Deephaven area.

When I moved to Washington state in 1975, I joined the Spokane APhi Alumnae Chapter because it was a perfect way to meet people, or ready-made sisters, as I call them. The alumnae chapter gave me Alpha Phi opportunities, such as serving as the treasurer and 1980 convention delegate. More importantly, they became my support network and close friends and saw me through the tragic loss of my daughter. Without their love and support, quietly lending strength when it was most needed, I wouldn’t have gotten through that time.

My outstanding alumnae chapter experience eventually transformed into a volunteer role as a District Alumnae Chairman (DAC). I provided support to alumnae chapters throughout Washington, Oregon, Idaho, Montana, British Columbia and Hawaii. I supported these chapters for six years, meeting and corresponding with so many wonderful women, but learning and growing along the way. The self-confidence I gained is immeasurable. Little did I know that this growth would lead me to one of Alpha Phi’s highest honors, a director on the Alpha Phi Foundation Board. For six more years, I learned and grew, stretching my abilities way beyond what I could have imagined, while enjoying a wonderful, eye-opening experience.

Being an alumnae initiate has been an experience I could not have imagined. I do not have ‘collegiate chapter memories,’ but I think that is okay, as I have met some of the grandest women that I count as sisters and long-lasting friends across the U.S. and Canada all because of one letter asking if I would like to become an Alpha Phi.”

Alpha Phi isn’t just four years. For some those four years don’t even happen, but the lifetime they give to Alpha Phi creates lasting memories and friendships that replace anything they possibly could have experienced as a collegiate member.

Nancy Bosworth (Epsilon Gamma-Sacramento State)

With introduction and closing statements by Jennifer Frobish

November 16, 2015

Watchcare: Active Listening

Active listening is a technique most used in counseling to assist the practitioner in gathering authentic and accurate information from a patient. It requires the practitioner to exhibit core interpersonal qualities and basic interpersonal skills. Active listening is also an excellent tool for sisters of Alpha Phi to better support and care for their sisters. You can use these qualities and skills to:

Listen to a sister in need
Understand someone’s decision making process 
Mediate a conflict between two people

The core interpersonal qualities of an active listener are:

1. Warmth and Genuineness: Being warm towards a sister means showing kindness, acceptance, and love. In contrast, think of someone whom you would describe as “cold.” This person probably didn’t show any interest in your concern and you may have been less likely to open up to this person again. Showing warmth means verbally showing interest, smiling or matching the sisters facial expressions, asking about how someone is doing, or by the tone of your voice or body language. Genuineness requires the listener to be able to be honest with themselves and the sister about their own biases and strengths. Being authentic with a sister will allow them to be more authentic, open and honest with you.

2. Empathy: We often think of showing sympathy to those who have experienced a loss or a misfortunate situation. Unlike sympathy-which means to show pity on someone-empathy is showing understanding of one’s situation. Those who are empathetic are able to put themselves in someone else’s shoes to understand how they are feeling. We may never be able to fully understand someone’s situation if we have not lived it ourselves, but being empathetic allows others to feel safe in our company.

3. Respect: Showing respect for a sister is as simple as noticing the good in others, even if they have made a poor decision. Respectful listeners acknowledge how the person is feeling, without condoning behavior. Respectful listeners also can acknowledge their own abilities, strengths, and mistakes if they interpret a person’s communication incorrectly.

Here are some tips on the basic interpersonal skills to be an active listener:

 Overserving and Attending: Active listeners take mental note of the person’s body language, tone of voice, and non-verbal communication. In order to do this, remove all distractions from the conversation. Meet in a neutral quiet location and put phones away. Give yourself a set amount of time so that you aren’t constantly worried about what is coming up next on your schedule. As you’re able, sit squarely across from the person, keeping your arms uncrossed, and your posture open to your sister.

• Listening: This may seem an obvious skill for active listening, but listening carefully is quite difficult for people to do. Have you ever been in an argument and while the other person was talking, you were preparing your next comeback line? That’s what we want to avoid when we actively listen to others. When we listen, we want to seek the meaning behind the words, not just hear the person.

• Express Understanding: The best way to know if you understood someone correctly is to ask. You might ask in the form of a question: What I hear you saying is…, is that correct? Or it might be a reflection of the feelings that they are displaying or communicating: It sounds like you feel sad about what happened last night; OR I can see tears coming to your eyes. Are you sad about what happened? If the sister says something vague and you need more information to form an understanding, you can simply say Tell me more about that, and the sister may give you additional information. If at any point your sister explains that you’ve understood her incorrectly, remember to be respectful and warm, accept the correction, acknowledge your new understanding, and continue the conversation.

Part of being a great sister is acknowledging that we are not experts or professional counselors. As much as we want to be able to fix all of our sister’s problems and make everything ok, we can’t. Knowing when and how to refer someone to a professional, is an excellent skill to have. If your sister exhibits any of the following, it’s time to refer:

A loss of a loved one, grieving
Alcohol or drug dependency
Suicidal thoughts

Making a referral can feel scary and sometimes like it’s not our business. But your sisters mental and physical wellbeing IS your business and is the business of Watchcare. If you notice that you need to make a referral, be honest with your sister. Thank her for sharing and talking with you, but that it might be best if she talk with a counselor. Tell here that there is a counseling center on/near campus that is available for her and that you’d be happy to walk her to the office to make an appointment. If she doesn’t want to physically go there, you can offer to call on her behalf so she can speak with the office or counselor. It is important to know your campus’ counseling center phone number or campus safety number. Sometimes just sharing a pamphlet or contact information will work for a sister. Follow up with her later to see how she’s doing.
If a sister is exhibiting suicidal thoughts or attempts to commit suicide, call your campus safety or 911 right away. They will be able to assist you in assessing the sister’s current state and determine if she needs immediate attention. 
Active listening takes a lot of energy, so it is important that you also take care of yourself before and after having this kind of conversation. It might be appropriate for you to visit with a counselor as well as someone’s story may impact you emotionally.

Alumnae Author: Katherine Lesperance (Delta Kappa, Wisconsin La Crosse)

Chang, V. N., Scott, S.T., & Decker, C.L. (2009). Developing Helping Skills: A Step-by-Step Approach (with DVD) 1st Edition. Belmont, CA: Brooks/Cole CENGAGE Learning

On the Road: Oh…The Places You’ll Go

As an educational leadership consultant the places you’ll go are places you never thought you would.  You’re off to a place far from home and the only sure thing is an Alpha Phi chapter awaits your arrival.

The smiles that greet you are some I will never forget and the experiences I have had are irreplaceable. From long recruitment nights to numerous airline flights, the one thing that remains constant is the group of twenty one girls around North America that have quickly become your best friends. It’s much like a small Alpha Phi chapter that travels and shares one common bond, the road. A bond only few share and one that is never forgotten. Although our time on the road is short, our friendships will last a lifetime.

Whether you are an educational leadership consultant, volunteer or a collegiate member, Alpha Phi will take you many places. Whether that be to the Emerging Leaders Institute, Leadership Conferences or even Convention, there are countless places your Alpha Phi chapter will take you. Those places, the people around you and the memories you share with Alpha Phi will remain with you.

As many initiations are happening around North America, I am grateful to travel and share the bond that Alpha Phi has given me with so many sisters around the country. Your Alpha Phi experience may take you down so many different roads, however, those roads may lead you to the unexpected. I never expected to meet so many amazing people or travel to so many places and I am grateful for Alpha Phi. What road will you take with Alpha Phi?

Katie Dunn (Beta Psi-San Jose State) is a first year educational leadership consultant. Learn more about Courtney by clicking here.

November 11, 2015

Collegiate Perspective: Phis Overseas, The Dos and Don’ts

Throughout my collegiate career, I have had beautiful opportunities to travel during our one month January Term. My experiences abroad (and with my sisters!)  became some of the most memorable and meaningful in my life. I have learned so much about the world and my place in it, and I have grown in ways that I believe, while I love this place, would have been impossible to do on a college campus.

I distinctly remember the day we visited The Great Wall of China in 2014. Since we were traveling in a group, our professor had all of the tickets necessary for the excursion and held onto them throughout the day. After a couple of hours of excitement and exhaustion, we decided to take the Toboggan down, not realizing until the bottom that it took us off and away from The Wall. We had no tickets, no Chinese language experience and no way to contact anyone in our group. Since we were far enough outside of Beijing, it was difficult to find anyone that could understand or help us. Yes, we were officially lost in China.

I must say that day was one of the most profound experiences of my life, and also one of the most exciting. It put into perspective the true barriers between cultures and the challenges of interpersonal communication. We were as far outside of our comfort zones as it gets, for not being able to understand anyone or anything can be a little terrifying. We had to be innovative and communicate without language, using pictures and hand gestures to make our long journey back. If you asked me if I would have made that mistake again – I absolutely would.

Each day abroad is a challenge, a gift and a larger part of an amazing journey that is education, no matter how old you are. Here are some dos and don’ts for taking that journey: 

DO: GET LOST IN A BEAUTIFUL CITY – Follow your heart. Get on a different train. Visit somewhere outside of what you find in the travel books. Of course, go with a friend, but don’t be afraid of the unknown. Sometimes, it’s the most beautiful.

DON’T: GET SICK – Most often, you can’t avoid it, but medical care abroad can be difficult to navigate. The medications differ, and it can also be tremendously difficult to communicate with your doctor. I’ve ended up in a clinic in both Kenya and Vietnam… take my word on this one. Make taking care of your health a top priority.

DO: HAVE A “WHY NOT” ATTITUDE – If you do things safely and responsibly, all you have to lose while you are abroad is time. Take advantage of every opportunity that comes your way, particularly the unexpected ones. The things you do spontaneously and on the fly make for the best stories.

DON’T: PACK TOO MUCH – There’s only so many sweaters you can bring! Narrow it down to your absolute favorites, and call it a day. Pick outfits you can mix and match. Save room for the essentials and anything you may be bringing home! Particularly if you are going to be traveling a lot while abroad, you don’t want to haul around the things you just don’t need.

DO: ENGAGE WITH THE LOCALS – Those will be some of the best experiences. Ask them questions about their lifestyle and culture. Take suggestions on places to eat and visit. Often times the “touristy” restaurants are too Americanized. Go for the authentic experience and learn from the people who know the country best!

DON’T: BE AFRIAD TO TRY NEW THINGS – Chances are your trip won’t exceed more  than a few months, so don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone and try something new! You can start with baby steps, like a new cuisine. Use this as an opportunity to grow as a person, while learning about new cultures. Experience and take in every moment. I have far too many regrets of things I wish I had tried while abroad!

DO: KEEP A JOURNAL – Every day will be packed with new adventures, acquaintances, and challenges and you’ll want to remember them. Even if it’s just a paragraph a day, keep track of these moments and the experiences that have impacted you most. It’s something you can share and will have forever.

Grace Quinn is a collegiate member at DePauw (Gamma). Learn more about Grace by clicking here.

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November 4, 2015

Collegiate Perspective: Balancing Being a Leader and Friend

With elections right around the corner for most chapters, we’re approaching the time of the year where a new executive board is stepping in. While we try our best to make transitions run smoothly, it’s hard to perfect these adjustments. One of the most difficult things to balance when holding a leadership role in your chapter is how to remain not only a good and dependent friend, but a strong leader as well. 

I’ve learned just from my experience with my chapter that the decisions you are required to make are not always easy ones. In the professional world or other organizations on campus, people are able to more easily put aside their differences and work together toward a common goal since their relationship didn’t originate from a friendship. Leading your sisters can be a different experience; as you step into your new role, they may forget that ‘friend’ is not the only role you play for them. 

So how do you do it then? 

The answer is that there is no right or wrong way to find the perfect balance. Everyone has a different perspective of how to do it successfully. Here is what some of the leaders of the Omicron chapter at Missouri had to say about it:

“I’ve had to make decisions that I didn’t want to make. But sometimes that’s what my job entails. At times you wonder if people are going to be upset with you as a result of them, but you know that every choice you make is in the best interest of the chapter.” –Ragin Dillon, Chapter President 

“I’ve learned that it helps to talk to my friends about the fact that  there is no exception to the rules right off the bat, that way they understand the impact of their actions… They should support me in what I’m doing.” – Gina Fasolo, VP of Campus Affairs 

“Your tone has a lot to do with it; you can be serious without being rude. The way you approach a situation is what makes the difference.”- Ashtyn Scruggs

If you catch yourself in a conflicted place while making a tough decision, all you have to do is the best you can, and learn how to balance your personal relationships with the responsibilities of your position. Remember to confide in your team when you’re struggling to find that balance. Sometimes all you need is the support of others while you are making the most of your leadership position.

Katelyn Pulio is a collegiate member at Missouri (Omicron). Learn more about Katelyn by clicking here.

October 28, 2015

Collegiate Perspective: Finding My Way

Throughout my collegiate experience I have made some important realizations, realizations that – along with support and advice from friends, family, professors and mentors – have helped me grow. Today I’d like to share a few tips I’ve implemented that are beneficial to any college student.

1. Eating the frog. In this context, the frog refers to the most dreadful or difficult task on your day’s to-do list. Making this the first task I work on makes me feel more accomplished and productive. Putting it off until the end of the day won’t benefit you. Ziglar says, “If you’ve got to eat a frog, sitting around looking at it doesn’t make it any better.”

2. Saving at least 10 percent, if not more. Build up your savings by taking 10 percent of your paycheck and depositing it into your savings account. That way, you’re well-prepared and less stressed in an emergency financial situation.

3. Learn to make one outstanding meal and one outstanding cup of coffee. No one will ever pass up a good home cooked meal or a greatly brewed cup of coffee. I learned to make great rosemary chicken with my special green beans!

4. Learn to articulate what you value in life and the qualities you value in other people. The ability to recognize what I find important and instilling those as a part of my core values has made me a more confident individual. Alpha Phi has played a huge part in helping me discover what I value in relationships. Being able to articulate this has allowed me to form new relationships while staying true to who I am.

5. Be able to defend your opinions. This is a lesson I learned early in college. Instead of regurgitating other’s opinions, do your research and find your own voice. People are more likely to listen to your opinions if they are truly your own, when you are able to elaborate on them and defend them with conviction.

6. Have some perspective. Being able to put yourself in other’s shoes and taking a moment to understand your peers is a commendable trait to have. We all come from different backgrounds and understanding that will help you with your relationships.

7. Weed out people that suck. Surround yourself with good company that makes you happy to be a part of this world. Be involved in their lives and they will want to be involved in yours.

I hope these realizations make an impact on your life like they have made on mine.

Darshana Panchal is a collegiate member at Creighton (Theta Delta) . Learn more about Darshana by clicking here.

October 26, 2015

On the Road: Packing list of qualities, skills, and items

While this just brushes the surface, here’s my attempt at a packing list of qualities, skills, and items I have found necessary for my year on the road as an ELC:

fLexibility – each new day brings its own unexpected challenges; travel schedules change, flights are unpredictable, and day to day life is different at each chapter you visit, but the unknown is what makes the job fun!

Energy Drinks & Emergen-C – actual all-nighters are the norm during recruitment season but make for the best laugh attacks and some of the best memories.  

Adventurous spirit – sometimes you may find yourself needing to get creative on how to reach your destination after a long day of delayed and cancelled flights.

Dry shampoo –travel days and recruitment week’s call for a little help freshening up! You never know who you might meet on the road; Robin Thicke might actually show up to Alpha Phi’s bid day.

Earplugs – you may be put up in a freshmen men’s residence hall where wrestling and ping pong tournaments are the norm at 2:00 a.m.  

Raincoat – you may be assigned to a project without a car in a city where it rains 140 days a year.  Thankfully, Salem, OR has allowed me to see the beauty and peacefulness of rainy days.

Self-motivation – ELCs have to muster up energy to crank out reports, weed through endless Basecamp emails, create workshop presentations, generate names for COB, and make hundreds of crafts no matter the day. Seeing your hard work pay off on bid day or witnessing a young chapter make strides make every effort completely worth it.

Hats - ELCs “wear many hats” – I’ve been a vocal coach, choreographer, motivational speaker, computer whiz, accountant, event planner, marketing director, photographer…to name a few.

vIsionary – chapters often narrow their focus in on the details of bid day decorations or the color of date dash t-shirts, so ELCs provide the unique big picture and fresh perspective to ensure all decisions are contributing to the chapter’s long term success. 

Piece of home – my mother sewed me a travel pillow on the way to the airport when I started in July and while I work diligently during most flights, that pillow and photos of family and friends from home comfort me when I need it most.

Chill pills – the perfectionist in me has had to learn that taking the frantic approach is never effective. Sometimes you have to take a step back, breathe, and laugh (especially when it starts raining during an outdoor preference ceremony and the PNMs are covering their heads with napkins). At the end of the day, everything falls into place and it all works out, maybe just not quite how you imagined it.

Open space – in your suitcase for the tons of t-shirts chapters generously shower you with and open space in your heart to welcome all the wonderful new people you befriend on the road.

Nap time –sometimes you get lucky and are sent to a school with a fellow consultant and instead of pulling all-nighters, you take turns taking naps to get in a few ZZZZZs. 

Starbucks giftcards –for whatever Starbucks obsession you may have. I consume an embarrassing amount of birthday cake pops – just ask the members at Linfield.

vUlnerability – waiting for a stranger at the airport, stepping into a house of unfamiliar faces, and taking the reins and offering insight to an established team can be scary, but breaking down barriers, being honest and real, and letting your true self shine is the first step to being welcomed into the chapter as one of their own.

Love of Alpha Phi – the one cool thing I have in common with every member, officer, advisor, volunteer, staff member and consultant I work beside and the one thing that will forever connect me to all of these incredible women.

Thick skin – when you travel alone it’s especially important to bounce back and keep a positive attitude when the going gets tough.

Adaptability – each campus and chapter brings with it its own unique culture. While my roots are in the Midwest, this job has forced me to adapt to a variety of schools and regions from large southern sororities to small Pacific Northwest liberal arts colleges to the high intensity of an Ivy League and each new place captures this Nebraska gal’s heart.

Notebook – to record meeting minutes, make to-do lists, but most importantly to document the special memories made.

These and many more are the reasons I get up every day, pack my life into a suitcase, and travel the country for the organization I love. 

Courtney Cosler (Theta Delta - Creighton) is a first year educational leadership consultant. Learn more about Courtney by clicking here.

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October 21, 2015

Collegiate Perspective: How To Do It All and Not Be Stressed

When I started my first year at George Mason University I was eager to dive into various leadership roles head-first, like many other motivated collegians. I had never really been involved in high school and knew I wanted to make the most of my college experience. First, I joined Alpha Phi and applied for an appointed position within my chapter. Then, I helped launch a community service organization at my school. Eventually, I took on positions in Panhellenic and student government as well. I was addicted to leadership.

I found myself drowning in 18-credits of home work and stressed out helping with events for four different organizations. I was constantly trying to make sure everyone was happy, throwing my own mental well-being to the wind in order to meet deadlines. I put too much pressure on myself to be “the best”- without having a clear idea of what that was.

Eventually, I learned the power of time management and delegating tasks. Sometimes we think “Well if I don’t do it, somebody else won’t be able to do it right!” Well the truth is, we’re wrong. Asking your sisters and colleagues for help is never a bad thing. In fact, getting multiple opinions on a decision can give you many different perspectives and new ideas. There is no reason to purposely overwhelm yourself when you have friends who want to support you.

Time management is a valuable skill I’ve gained in college that I know I’ll take with me into my professional career. The most important aspect of managing your time in college is staying organized. Some tools that have helped me stay organized would be my (Lilly) planner, a calendar and my google drive. When you know about your commitments and responsibilities ahead of time, you can plan ahead and prioritize, stress free!

I also realized that sometimes we may come to a point where we cannot take on any more projects or tasks. Sometimes we just need to say, “I have too much on my plate”. We all want to be the best sisters we can be: serving on committees, holding positions, attending every event. But while we’re running a mile a minute we need to stop and prioritize.  As we balance school, internships, relationships, our chapter and other clubs, we must keep in mind our well-being for a healthy lifestyle. 

Now well into my senior year, I know I will never regret being so involved in my sorority and on my campus. I am still on the Executive Board of Alpha Phi, the Panhellenic Council, and student government; living proof that you can do it all and remain sane, if you stay organized, manage your time well and ask for help!

Caroline Whitlock is a collegiate member at George Mason (Eta Lambda). Learn more about Caroline by clicking here.

October 19, 2015

On the Road: Each new place is a new adventure

I started my ELC adventures with 20 of my soon to be closest friends almost three months ago on a summer day in Chicago. We trained together, soaked up all of the knowledge we were given and laughed a lot along the way. A couple weeks later it was time for us to start traveling and make a difference in Alpha Phi chapters across North America. I was nervous to start my adventure, and I wanted to make an impact on each chapter I visited. But what I didn’t realize is the impact those chapters would have on me.

My first stop was University of Alabama, where I got to help my biggest rival. Even though I will always be a Tiger at heart, T-town will now be a place that holds special memories. Next on the road would be Florida State, where we chanted Hottie Tottie and bonded over rain delays. At Iowa State we laugh about all of the corn, and watch Grey’s Anatomy together. Indiana State taught me that sometimes it is 40 degrees in September and it is always more fun to have late night talks than sleep. I became “wicked” cool at New Hampshire, chanting Hoorah for A Phi, and I will never forget the countless Taco Bell runs in Eastern Washington. 

Now as I sit and listen to the girls’ excitement of College Game Day at Utah and reflect on my experiences thus far, I am beginning to realize that Alpha Phi has set me up on one unique, never ending adventure. The initial path was laid as a Delta Tau founding chapter member, where my sisters and I (somewhat lost) built the beginning of a strong sisterhood at LSU. My fellow ELCs now serve as my compass, providing guidance and navigation through life’s unexpected twists and turns. And now I am in the midst of one crazy expedition. With each stop, I learn something new and create new memories. I have met so many amazing women along the way, each of whom has impacted me and contributed to my Alpha Phi adventure.

Calli Simoneaux (Delta Tau - LSU) is a first year educational leadership consultant. Learn more about Calli by clicking here.