You go to several weddings in your life. You meet your friends’ cousins, co-workers and childhood best friends. You shake hundreds of hands, and there’s small talk until you settle on something in common. “Oh, you work in health care? So does my mom!”
At one wedding just when I was growing tired of the idle chit-chat, I was introduced to the bride’s friend from college. We started talking about the good old days, and of course sororities came up. She is an Alpha Phi from the Beta Alpha chapter at Illinois – our common ground had been established. Our faces lit up, and we gave each other the hand shake with a knowing look. Instantly, she rose above all of the other new acquaintances and became a friend. We spent the rest of the night reminiscing about social events and comparing notes on our philanthropy fundraisers.
I have not moved far from my alma mater, the University of Maryland, but Washington, DC, attracts people from all over the country. At cocktail parties or even riding the Metro, I’ll meet an Alpha Phi or see a girl in an APhi t-shirt and feel an immediate kinship.
Major life changes like new jobs and moving can be intimidating; you’re meeting several new people and some of your best friends are no longer conveniently nearby. Every so often though, you come upon someone who has a shared outlook, who you already know cherishes the same values and who knows the true meaning of sisterhood. You meet an Alpha Phi, and the world gets a little smaller.
Maggie McGuire (Delta Zeta-Maryland) currently resides in Chevy Chase, MD.
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I love history and genealogy, so, family photos and collectibles have always meant a lot to me. This is both a blessing and a curse. It is a blessing that I actually enjoy looking at things hanging on my walls, in my bookcases, on top of my mantle. They define me, my interests and those of my husband and my son. The curse is that my house is getting full!
The secret for me has been to begin to identify what items might belong in another place where they can be treasured and appreciated and not end up at a garage sale. In the case of Alpha Phi items, I have tracked the sale of Alpha Phi badges and other items for initiated members only being sold on eBay for several years now. Luckily, the number of badges being sold online has decreased as more members learn and remember the proper way to handle badges. The Alpha Phi badge, upon the member’s death, should either be buried with the member, given to another Alpha Phi or sent back to the Executive Office. Nancy Theisen Bennett (Delta Tau–LSU) currently resides in Fresno, CA.
Personally, I have begun to give away to other Alpha Phi’s the items I no longer wear with much frequency. As friends’ daughters have joined Alpha Phi, I have given away some clothing and some jewelry. They love it as it truly is “retro” and certainly appreciate the thought. Several years ago, I was given a beautiful raised crest disc necklace by an older alum and neighbor who wanted me to have it to wear to Alpha Phi functions. I have worn it with great pride and always told the story when I wore it and gotten a lot of compliments. Should I stop wearing it, I will make sure to pass it along to a younger Alpha Phi that I know will treasure it as I have. It is important for Alpha Phi’s legacy to keep these badges and jewelry and even clothing in member’s hands. Anything less degrades the special nature of these items we all wear with pride.
In gifting of Alpha Phi items, also consider giving back to your collegiate chapter or a local chapter in your area. If your local collegiate chapter conducts silent auctions as fundraisers at events, some of these “vintage” items could be big sellers.
If you do see an Alpha Phi badge or even another sorority or fraternity badge at an estate sale and you cannot afford to purchase it, consider contacting a member who might be interested. I was at an antique sale several years ago and spotted a Phi Mu badge. I contacted one of my Phi Mu friends in Fresno Alumnae Panhellenic who knew the vendor and purchased it from her to give to another Phi Mu. And, as the family member who collects, I had been given my grandmother’s Alpha Delta Pi Initiation Certificate (1922, Kansas State) along with some other mementos from her college days. I contacted the Alpha Delta Pi Memorial Chair at their national headquarters. After describing the items in detail, she was thrilled to have them sent to her and I know my grandmother would be thrilled as well.
I encourage you to protect Alpha Phi’s legacy and feel good about passing along your legacy.
Nancy Bennett (Delta Tau-LSU) currently resides in Fresno, CA.
The Alpha Phi Traveler program sponsors unique travel opportunities for alumnae to explore the world—together! Our travel program enables you and other sisters to come together, rekindle bonds and connect with the world as adventurers, vacationers and explorers.
Barbara Taylor (Beta Delta`71-UCLA) was a recent participant in Alpha Phi Traveler’s 2010 trip to China. Taylor had always longed to visit China and realized that this program provided her with an amazing, once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to travel with friends, including chapter sister Terry Gomme (Beta Delta ’73- UCLA). Taylor and her group traveled to numerous cities in China such as Beijing, Xian, Chongqing, Yichang, Shanghai and Hong Kong. A local tour director illuminated China’s ancient past as well as its fast-moving present.
The group was able to explore various cities and tourist attractions. Taylor mentions that her favorite experiences in China were standing on the Great Wall and viewing the terra cotta warriors. She notes, “The length of the history of China is just amazing and the fact that they have managed to preserve these pieces of history is a great achievement.” Other day trips and organized tours allowed for a relaxed environment in a small group setting.
In addition to discovering China’s highlights, the Alpha Phi Traveler program allows you to travel in a safe, organized and comfortable group scenario. Taylor says that traveling on a tour in China is “the only way to go.” She was very appreciative that she did not have to individually deal with all the travel issues like deciding on restaurants, paying the right amount of foreign currency or figuring out the appropriate tip. She says, “We didn’t have to worry about anything or arrange anything. Our day was mapped out for us and we just showed up in the lobby in the morning and were taken everywhere!”
Most importantly Taylor says that “traveling with a group through the Traveler program allowed [me] to meet other people with many interesting life experiences.” Taylor explains that at other places, they ran into another tour group that had no “connection” to each other and didn’t seem cohesive as their group, a definite perk of traveling with an Alpha Phi planned program.
Could there be anything more fun than traveling the world with people who value the same special Alpha Phi bond that you do? Whether it is with old college friends, family or Alpha Phis from a particular city or region, Alpha Phi Traveler stands ready to embark with you on the trip of a lifetime! For more information visit http://alphaphitraveler.com/ and see the travel opportunities currently available for you and your sisters.